What is Love?
Is love a product that can be bought and sold with money or is it developed through patience, kindness and forgiveness? Why not be nice all the time, give the gift of self and buy random flowers or presents?
We know something of the shortcomings and challenges we each face as human beings. How can we focus on the potential to enjoy this emotion that each of us has a desire to experience? Where will our individual experience take us? How can something so positive take a negative turn at times?
My personal approach to life and discovery is to understand "the why" as some say. We base much of our attitudes in life on experience. We are also exposed to philosophical, scientific or theological reasonings. How are they tied together in a bond of truth?
We think life would be wonderful if we could only experience the ideals of love, but the reality is that life is a constant state of learning amid opposition and pitfalls. Thankfully it is interspersed with joys and occasional elation. What we learn and how we then act can increase the constancy of joy and love in our lives.
Doesn't it make sense to determine the level of commitment we want to attain and the depth of our development we desire with this powerful experience we call love? Isn't love a connecting factor in so many of the relationships that we value on the highest level of our capabilities? Our decisions determine our destiny.
Notions of Love
More songs have been written about this subject than perhaps any other. Many are promoting of counterfeit emotion because they have failed at developing true and lasting love, They now turn fictional encounters into fantasies of fascination and ecstasy in the minds of young listeners that listen over and over again.
Love lost or gained is a thematic element of many movies. If I could "save time in a bottle" or write an "old fashioned love song"everything would turn out okay I was told in high school.
Some call love the most powerful force in the world. This they say because they think it drives human passions for better or worse. It has been called crazy love, free love, love is blind. Blinded by what? And love at first sight. The sight of what? Are these really love? The world does keep us moving at a fast paced superficial level.
Some say there are four kinds of love and others seven. Then there are terms that describe something else such as God is love or endless love. If this is so, then how so?
We are subjected to many forms of media portrayals supposedly depicting love. The imaginations and expressions of writers and actors that often have no bearing on reality still affect us as they float about everywhere in the popular culture.
These entertainment notions and portrayals reduce a person's power to make lasting connections if they try to imitate them in the slightest. Skepticism and mockery rule the airwaves masquerading as intelligent observations to the uninformed.
I have learned that love is as much a discipline as it is an emotion and that love as a power is only developed when implemented as a principle of action. Sorry, no magic arrows, just effort and commitment. Where do we want love in our life? At a superficial level, or can we really look at the ramifications of our relationships?
The Science of Love
We often say that love is in our hearts but in reality love develops in our mind. It does affect our hearts though. It is cultivated and stored in the cells of our brain in ways we hardly comprehend. In the mind it transcends the capacity of science to explain it. You only need to read a few noteworthy articles to understand how much science has discovered about the body and brain yet scientists don't understand it all.
Does what we eat and how we exercise affect our ability to love and feel loved? To know about neurochemicals, receptors and electrochemical function and the rest of the nervous system is quite amazing. There are 23,000 identifiable chemical processes in the human body. There is certainly some possibility for variance and misfiring.
The emotion of what we call love can and does act on our whole body. We know our heart is affected in a physical way at the sight or thought of a special person. These feelings seem to extend to all of the nerves in our body at times. Do we not also call the depression that sometimes sets in when love is lost or a loved dies a broken heart?
Our feelings or emotions go into action according to stimulus we might receive. We also create them by choosing to act on knowledge we gain in our associations and activities. The science of emotion is real but I think it is a more powerful science than we understand with our elementary discoveries that look in limited spectrums?
This blog is about exploring the relationship of temporary or mortal things in the context of eternity and the nature of our spirit. My conclusion is that our mind is more than just our brain and is where the spiritual and mortal join for the present life. This essay just started as an opportunity to see what love really is to me so don't get hung up if you don't agree.
Even though we die, the elements of our body are still eternal as they cannot not created nor destroyed, this is a scientific fact. What about our emotions? Are they a flash of electrochemical charges or part of a more eternal process?
How does such a complex emotion and virtue develop in beings living on a micro speck planet in the Milky Way Galaxy amid an endless cosmos? Are we mere creatures of evolution as some theories and limited science suggest or something of a more eternal nature? Both require faith to believe and to search for answers.
This life is school, a school where we learn about love. Our degree depends on our desires and our willingness to recognize what we don't know and make a plan to develop and learn. Where will we be when we graduate? The history of the world is a story of the effects of love and hate on the lives of individuals, nations and mankind.
Like all principles, matter, intelligence, truth and existence itself we need to identify the nature of the subject we contemplate. Is it eternal or temporary? When did love begin to exist?
My views on love I have gathered from my experience in life, being married for 37 years and raising our eight children together. I adore her more than ever because of our experience together. I am quite familiar with the love of a mother and wife and have tried to implement the love of a father and husband. It is a process not an event.
Any science of my observations you can read in scientific articles. My theology is based on my association with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. What I say though is my own opinion. Official Church positions are here.
See "The Family" a proclamation to the world.
The Philosophy of Love
If there is such a thing as true love there will undoubtedly be false love or counterfeits as well. If we fall in love can we not also fall out? Love is a choice we make to serve others. Without natural opposition there is no real experience for freedom of choice or emotional development. We can love others when they don't love us back. Do we not call this unconditional love?
How we act reinforces what we accept. We choose which stays and which goes and how it plays into our eternal development. This is the agency associated with our individual will and freedom to act as we choose.
The Eternal Nature of Love
The endless nature of space and the fact that eternity exists are two givens at the core of any search for truth. Our science is infantile even if it were 10,000 years old. It is not however and the most comprehensive advancements have been made in the last 200 years. We have begun to confirm what is already a self evident truth. There is no end to space.
Part of the problem with theologies of the past is that they don't line up with science or good philosophy or common self evident truths. They teach of a one planet creator and limited to creating of inferior persons.
Philosophy can conceive some answers to live by but only God can reveal the full nature of truth. We cannot make up our own science or theology and think that they are true.
In explaining the existence of our spiritual nature many a philosopher and speculator or scholar has come up with ideas that they think are a rational explanation. They either base it on scholarly interpretation or philosophical debate. None of these are authoritative.
If you don't think a part of you is eternal you should probably stop reading here.
I will explain how creation and love is understood based on my understanding of revealed theology in my church. Love does make the world go round. Just not in the manner personal opinions might assume.
If you believe the Bible for example, the scripture is quite clear that we are created male and female in the image of God. No other orthodox religious organization teaches this as a literal fact. The common understanding is that God does not have a body or exists as an actual person. They developed a confusing dogma of three beings in one.
How was our spirit created? The literal nature of our spiritual creation is a natural process. It is not magic or made up out of a void. All science is a spiritual truth as well. The elements of spirit are just as real as the organics we experience now. We just don't have the science currently that demonstrates all of the revealed theology.
There is an eternal pattern of creation. It doesn't change. We look like the parents of whose spiritual children we are and our mortal parents as well.
In the eternal and infinite heavens there is no creation without both motherhood and fatherhood bound together in holy commitments.
The nature of our creation and our maleness and femaleness is a self-evident truth manifest in the earth and is an eternal law. Likewise there is no continuation of love without this creative process. Men are nothing without women and women are nothing without men as nothing would exist without both. You just shouldn't believe everything you see on TV or hear politicians say regarding procreative processes.
Love is the source of God's desire to lift us to our full potential. God as the creator of our spirit means parents plural. The glory of God is not limited to the male gender. This has been the conclusion of various scholars acting on their own accord in conjunction with certain creeds for almost 2000 years.
We should love one another because we are quite literally brothers and sisters, spirit sons and daughters, children of God. Our identity is eternal. It is not a conclusion decided by philosophy.
Most of mankind has the power to create life with few exceptions. It is given to us as a natural order and exists independent of how we might choose to develop our appetites and passions. Love is not just the base attraction among humans, nor is it random, but its counterfeits are.
Why did God give us the power to create life? Because he wants us to learn to love like he does. To nurture and to bond in a natural occurring way in family units.
What if we don't have the opportunity to form the marriage relationship we might desire at the present time? Patience and faith still form the basis for this endeavor. No one is denied a blessing they seek because it did not present itself in mortality. Because of the perfect love of God opportunities exist of which we have been made aware but not yet fully revealed.
The joy of love is compounded immensely in marriage with the fidelity of husband and wife...not diminished. When we observe the law of sexual integrity, life giving powers and joys are magnified and multiplied in our lives, meaning they extend to the next life. Our emotional investments do not go away when we die if we covenant here to keep them.
Living outside the bounds of these protections of marriage and sexual integrity causes loss of the sensitivities that allow us to develop the full potential of this eternal experience.
Marriage and family is an eternal order of living. It is given so we can make the commitment to receive the full potential of love and it will be more than a lifetime process and it won't happen without many mistakes. This is why there is a Savior. Our mistakes don't need to hold us back.
Our decisions do determine our direction and ultimate destiny. This is the law of Agency and the law of the Harvest. Eternal relationships are at the center of everything we believe in the church. Love is eternal because it exists and is perpetuated in the family unit both in heaven and in earth. Without familial creation there is no continuation of love.